In early August I wrote about forgiveness. I absolutely meant it. We are only human and we all make mistakes. However, some are more devastating than others.
Which brings me to the blog title.
Without revealing names, a person very close to me found out that her husband had an affair earlier this year. After a series of events, including forgiveness, lies, a continued affair, separation, emotional roller coaster, the husband (whom I now affectionately call "F*ckhead") has chosen the homewrecker. Now my friend has signed a lease for an apartment a thousand miles away from him.
Divorce is a reality for today. But what about tomorrow?
She's a fabulous woman – smart, beautiful, patient, and loving. She'll find a new life for herself that will soar above the years she spent with F*ckhead. But they aren't in this alone. They have a child together.
I had friends growing up that split time with their parents. It seemed to work, but they were typically in the same state at least. It seems so foreign to me that their little child is going to grow up this way. Not to mention the slim chance F*ckhead and Homewrecker will actually last. So how's that for a male role model.
The only thing that helps me see the silver lining on this is that my friend will come out of this better than he will. She has a support system that will help her cope through the ugliness of this situation. She has her family, her friends, her friends' friends, etc. What does he have?
So this is me officially removing the window of opportunity for F*ckhead to ask for forgiveness. If he doesn't want it, we'll do just fine without him in our lives.
